I just went back and read your original post GingerCharlie and I tell ya', I'm not sure why you want to go back with such an a$$hole. He sounds like an old BF of mine who was not even an alcoholic- but he was the biggest a$$hole I was ever with. He too wanted me to move in almost right away, and I did, and he too "switched" on me after not-too-long. But while we were together, I could NEVER figure out whether I was coming or going. One minute he was the sweetest guy, would buy things for me, go out of his way to do nice things, etc, but the next minute he was something else entirely. To this day I cannot describe it in words. The closest I got to understanding this person was when I read about (1) sociopaths and (2) passive aggressive men. I'm sorry he treated you that way but why would you want to go through the treatment you have gotten again? Especially the part about when his parents came over? That is one effed-up dude.