Hi LBrooke
Welcome to SR.
I don't know the dynamica of your relationship - maybe he thinks he's helping by asking people...maybe he wants to talk about it and maybe he wants to take care of you...maybe he thinks making a joke is a good way into a conversation...
I dunno.
All that being said? I don't think it's unreasonable you should expect you get what you asked for....but, of course, people don't always do what we want.
Maybe you need to sit him down and have all this out with him again? I know you don't want to go over old ground, but I think you may have to in order to sort this out.
And keep using us for support
Glad to have you with us
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