here here, bolina.
my xah also asked for sex, even after it was apparent i was not interested. i shut any part of wanting him down years before i physically ended the relationship. but...not only after it was apparent, but even after we went to counseling, and after i told him that it just wasn't going to happen, so please respect the line i was drawing.
once he told me about something he saw on television, supposed to help people like me (frigid i guess). i think it was a medication. i was so offended and told him he just didn't get it.
my therapist at the time told me he would approach me, knowing what the answer was going to be, to set himself up. he was setting himself up a lot. then he could wallow in self-pity and self-loathing, and go drink or smoke to feel better.