Originally Posted by
gmc 
And yes, I still agree it is no excuse. I think I am in the "look for my blame" part of this situation. I am sure I will go through the motions and get back to the "no excuse" part soon. I just cant help it at this particular moment!
Lot's of times I see where "owning our part" becomes "blaming ourselves." I understand where that thinking comes from. My mother is the all-time world-champion codependent, and she trained me from a very early age that everyone else is to blame, and if I cannot make that case, then I am to blame.
These days, I work very hard to take blame out of my life. Mine and others alike. Blame is all about the past. Sure, there are some things I have done that I am not proud of, but I recognize them and take the lessons I have learned. Blame is not necessary and it does no good for anyone.
L