I understand looking at the situation from different points of view and yes i agree - many times i have said that i don't know if there were times i saved my son's life at that particular time or made things worse - all i could do at the time was the best i could do - i have to keep reminding myself - or i should say that my friends have to keep reminding me that hind sight is always 20/20 (and sometimes 20/15!) i knew forcing recovery wouldn't work for sure but i will have to say the few days before this last arrest when things were spiralling down so fast i said i would shoot him in the leg if i had a gun so at least he would be shut down - of course then i would be in jail and that wouldn't accomplish anything - thank you so much for sharing