So you aren't drinking? That's awesome!!
That's what most people (don't) do. We want recognition from our spouses, loved ones, friends... and if they are "normies"... it's no big deal to them... you are just acting the way adults should act... not getting drunk all the time, being responsible, accountable. We can't expect them to really know what it's like to be alcoholic, maybe they read it in a book, so how can we expect them to appreciate how hard it is to recover? We can't.
My father died 11 years ago, early at 63, suddenly... that was horrible and it hurt me bad... in some ways it was the very beginning of my slide into alcoholism. My wife was supportive and loving. That's all she could do, it's all I wanted her to do... she didn't understand... it wasn't her dad.
There are lots of people right here who know exactly how you feel. Keep posting!! There is also a great program... AA... where the fellowship end of it is all about getting the support and encouragement we need in sobriety.
Mark