Originally Posted by
kae 
I can't get a relationship with God
Well, then, you haven't thoroughly worked all the steps.
Relax. For many that takes a while. The real hurdle is getting your own understanding or conception of God. How do we have a relationship with something we can't yet conceive of? Especially since my conception won't, in all probability, be the same as yours... but that's the beauty of it, isn't it?
Read the big book, drop all your preconceived notions, especially the notions of others, look inside yourself, like inside others and all around. He's there if you look. Talk with a sponsor, clergyman... whomever... the search is as important as the finding.
Once you have a higher power,
then, only then, thoroughly work the steps. You will be amazed.
Don't give up and be easier on yourself. It's a simple program but it's not easy.
Mark