Hi Gi!
I had thought about the same awhile back. I guess I really didn't know how I wanted him to participate in my revovery. But today I'm content in him just still being here with me, supporting me in his own way, and I'm grateful now, I get to wake up in the morning with him still here. That's all I need now to feel satisfied.
I've learned that non-program people just don't get it and perhaps never will, but so long as they support us, love us, and continue to try and grow with us, that's the blessing.