Hi Margie
Welcome. I am also married to an A and for 18 years. He started going to AA 3 years ago. He started when he knew I was really going to leave. I had threatened many times but this time something inside had clicked and he knew it. Only you know what to do. You can support him whereever you are but he has to do it himself. So many times I wanted my AH to get help and he never did. He had to decide to get help. I think if you feel you should stay where you are right now then that is what you should do. You have to do what is right for you.