Originally Posted by
Jazzman 
And yes, you're enabling. Make it stop.
Jazzman, could you please do me a favor and VERY EXPLICITLY tell me how I'm enabling. Not that I don't believe you--it's just that I'm just as deaf to enabling as the alcoholic is to the consequences is to his/her behavior, and I truly do want it to stop. I can't stop unless I have the leverage to get myself out of the rut, which is clear, unambiguous information.
So, it would help if you could play back to me how I am enabling my AH, so that I can keep those words in my head when I start to do it again.
Thanks!