My husband of 4 years doesn't want my son age 19 to live at our house this summer until he goes away to college in the fall. he wants him to live at his dads. my husband doesnt like my son. But I want my son here at the house if thats where he wants to be these last few months before he goes away to college.
And my husband is soooo mad at me. I mean MAD. and he will hardly speak to me. its been going on for several days now. and even though i can accept that he doesnt like my son, i wont make him go live at his dads. and i am hurt and to me it tells me something about my husband. my son was ill behaved several years ago but is no longer disrespectful toward me and never to my husband (his step dad) or anything. he works a lot and is respectful toward my husband and has no idea his step dad doesnt like him. Hes and mature and responsible.
every time i open up conversation about it trying to get my husband to not be so mad at me he ends up yelling and then i get even more hurt. i dont know what to do.
We have been to therapy about this.
My issue is that because of my "own" issues...I feel sick to my stomach, my mind cant think, I cant sleep, heart is racing = anxiety. And i feel very conflicted about wantign my child to be with me yet it not being acceptable to my husband. And feeling so defensive tryingt o uphold what I beleive is the right thing.
