Finding a relationship in AA is like finding a hotdog in the dumpster. You might find one, but I don't know if I'd eat it. I met people like that when I first started going to meetings and they turned into a resentment because I didn't know how to say NO. I've learned since, besides, your recovery should be the most important thing to you, not his. Service comes when we learn boundaries, and he doesn't seem to have any.