Originally Posted by
Freedom1990 
That peace is possible, and it's available when you are ready to grab it.
I'm going to speak to you now as a recovering addict, not as the mother of an addict.
He's using you, period.
Every day that goes by that he is still under your roof, internally he is thumbing his nose at you, and will continue to use every chance he gets.
As long as I had enablers, I was never going to hit a bottom.
You don't owe him a thing, including time to save up money for a place.
Your healing, your peace can start whenever you make that choice.
Until then, expect the same old same old from your AS.
It really is that simple. Is it easy? No, it was one of the hardest things I ever did to completely detach and let go of my AD.
That's when the healing and peace began for me.
BTW, her drug of choice right now is Xanax, and she's still not welcome in my home.
Wow, that is exactly how I feel when I 'think' he may be snorting the xanax...like he is thumbing his nose at me and not taking me seriously...that just makes me angry as hell..
Thanks for that, I am planning to ask him tomorrow what he has chosen for his life....and then I am planning on telling him I love him with all my heart, but it's time he acts his age and moves along with life....