You may want to try to change the focus of your "assistance." I would explain that I feel an obligation to be there for his recovery, but that doesn't include making life's terms easier.
Why don't you tell him that you'll be happy to spend time with him to guide him through the Steps and help him get to meetings, but he'll need to find his own way on the other stuff. It'll be interesting to see how he responds to your offer to help him with the steps, especially if you give him homework whenever you see him<G>.
blessings
zenbear