Hey Kmber2010, I'm glad to hear that you are staying sober throughout this chaos. I have buddies who are still active and they are officers. So they tell me the crazy stories from their guy's gf/wife. My suggestion would be to keep documented reports of what is happening. Your husband should probably not confront her husband either because it seems like he has a lot on his plate too. If you havent already started, you should start ignoring her phone calls and just cut all contact with her. It might be tempting to talk to mutual friends about what she is saying but I would recommend you to refrain from asking. You cant control what she does but you can control what you do.