teke,
thank you for posting! so good to hear from you.
you have nothing to feel guilty about. remember: give him the message that you love him, but trust HIM to figure out his life, and what he needs to do.
i think you have been a person that has been very giving to the people in your life. if you are changing some things - the way you respond to people - some of them are not gonna like it. you can still be the generous and loving person you are, but that love is shown in different ways.
yeah, he's probably depressed. still has to go to those things that will HELP him, not just help him stay stuck.
"God helps those who help themselves." (Benjamin Franklin)