Originally Posted by
Angelic17 
I am not functioning properly. I can't be a good wife like I always am, and I can't enjoy my life yet. I'm not cooking and cleaning and doing all the things I normally do. I'm exhausted. I don't know why I am this way. But, when he hurts, I hurt. That's just the way GOD made me. What he feels, I feel.
you have been through the ringer. of course there is collateral damage. be kind to yourself.
for some - probably most - of us - ok, probably all of us - this is true. "when he hurts, i hurt". for some of us, it is impossible to separate ourselves from those we most love. we either are sympathetic because we are actually feeling our own pain through the other, or we are sympathetic because we cannot separate us from them.
i mean no disrespect; i hope no offense has been taken. i wish you peace and healing, angelic