But what if it ruins his career? If work find out about it? It'll be on me... I'll be the one who ruined the only thing going for him.
Why do you think you are so powerful? That's crazy. Let him feel the consequences for his actions. You are not his mother or his God. You are not in control of his life. if you were, it wouldn't be such a mess now, would it? All his problems would be fixed and he would be the perfect man for you - with no alcoholism.
You are simply a girl who's life and emotions are swirling out of control because she is focused on trying to control something she has no control over.
Allow him the dignity of dealing with his own problems. Or he may never have a chance at getting sober.
Do you attend Alanon? Do YOU work a program for your codependency?