Thanks so much for responding. It reinforced the non-interference I had almost concluded. I was able to at least get him out of the office and home after 3 days. Aunt talked him into talking to our pastor again about an 11-month treatment program he offered before. So now we're really letting go and letting God.
I feel content in that I did all that I can do or should do. Option divorce probably. He claims he started the process but didn't know the name of the lawyer (more quacking).
Wow, 3 dui's in a week! Were you still married then? How scary!