I still feel shame sometimes, when I talk about my codependency and my son's addiction. Mostly when I talk about it with "normies", earthlings who have never had the experience of dealing with the addiction of a loved one (and I pray they never will).
Sharing here at SR feels safe, sharing at meetings and sharing with other friends in recovery all feel safe to me and I don't feel the shame then.
Maybe the shame I feel is something I still need to work on. Maybe I am embarassed that my life isn't perfect and therefore I am flawed?
We are more than our problems. Even if our problem is our own behavior, the problem is not who we are - it's what we did.
I need to accept that I had/have a problem but at least I am doing something constructive about it. Those who would judge me have a problem too, that of judgment of people they know nothing about.
Today I will live in the solution, my recovery, and leave "problems" and shame behind me. They never served me well anyway.
Hugs