Good grief, you paid every penny for this house and mr want-it-all has contributed zilch.......it is YOUR HOME, so now tell this creep that he is out of it within 24 hours. He can bludge off some of his bar friends or whoever, but he isn't suckering you into giving any more.
Someone needs to explain to him, that DIVORCE means marriage is over, done with, kaput, and it is time to move on.
Please stop being "kind" to him, for what? If he was a nice guy you wouldn't be divorcing him, right?
OK he has no interest in doing anything, as he figures you don't really mean business about him moving, or getting divorced and you letting him stay and live like a king is proof of this to him.
Get a lawyer, if only to send a letter to evict him, or spell out legally in big letters, YOU ARE BEING DIVORCED.
Now is the time for you to stop being wishy washy, and put it on the line.
God bless