As long as you continue to take care of him, he will likely continue to allow you to do so. Sooner or later, you learn how to emotionally detach, the pain begins to subside, you begin to see the truth, and you make up your mind to stop enabling. I think it would be good if you now take that $100 that you WERE going to loan to him and spend it on something special for YOU THIS weekend. How about a manicure and pedicure? Or new hair style? Or a new dress or outfit? Or dinner out with a friend? Teach yourself to treat yourself just as good as you've been treating HIM
