Originally Posted by
kia 
thanks for your advice it he1ps me to hear this he1ps me to find direction cos right now i fee1 im doing what u did im dragging it with me and its not he1ping cos inside i fee1 so empty how did u get the interna1 he1p was that a1 anon? xxxxx
Alanon has been a tremendous help. I networked with others in recovery from codependency who were further along and could guide me. Having a sponsor I could talk to was a gift.
"Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie is an excellent starter book, and I still refer to it from time to time.
I also have been in therapy over the years, and am back in therapy again. It's a great way to supplement my recovery when I am really struggling.