The thing is, you have spent several years with him already. He has lied, cheated on you and treated you horribly. Until you actually live with him again, you can't possibly know that he won't return to the same person he was in the past.
Well I ain't livin with that guy again unless he's been sober for years. Fat chance huh? I not even interested in discussing that either unless we're in a room with a mediator.
the interesting part to me is that I used to define him the way you have above, but now that I"m not doing magical thinking or awfulizing, I can see how he was all those things, but also kind, supportive, hard working, a good father and really tried to fix things--before he started his affair.
Whatever. This has already taken up too much of my time for today. Leaving for a 5 city tour tomorrow! Wahoo! Promoting my newspaper, setting up contacts in FL where I hope to move someday and having political strategy meetings--PLUS seeing my sister perform in Key West and New York City.
Have a great day everyone!