Oh boy what a mess. After all his bad behavior, you legally marry him, and he is expecting you to leave your job, family and friends etc, and move away to where he is. No job, no friends, just him, the man who has lied and cheated before, and drinks like a fish.
The man who talks you into a civil wedding without you family even knowing about it?
As a mum, let me tell you now....he would be safer with the Taliban than me, if you were my daughter and he had done me out of the wedding. The fancy do in October will be a fancy do...not the real thing....you had that already.
He sounds like he is desperate to have you with him, all tird up and unable to escape from him.....and girl, that scares the dickens out of me.
I would be seeing a lawyer, and telly "hubby" that I am staying where I am, and I would be telling him why I have concerns about a life with him.
God bless