Acceptance, I'm learning, is a constant struggle for me. I've been separated from my XAH for five years, divorced for more than three. I have accepted that he is who he is and I no longer expect him to "step up" and be the father.
But now I'm struggling with my job. I expect people to value and respect my work, yet a lot of times they don't. I've been very stressed out lately trying to get the people I work with to respect and value me. I woke up this morning with the realization that I'm going through the same thing I went through with my A. I have to accept that I'm not going to get what I want at work. It's up to me to either continue working there, knowing I will not get what I want, or make a plan to do something else.
I'm learning that acceptance is much bigger than just a tool for dealing with alcoholics. It's a tool for life.
L