(((Rita)))) - you'll be fine. You KNOW you don't ever go to stuff like this alone..HP and all of us are always with you.
When I come across people who judge others, at first I get angry, and then I get grateful that I don't do that any more. I then say a prayer that they find their way past the misery they're living in.
Go be the awesome mama you are, enjoy Ash's special night and if anyone says/asks anything to you, about you? Put the focus back on Ash...SHE is the shining star. You can do this.
Love, hugs, and prayers!
Amy