Originally Posted by
lilliant 
He won't even speak to me now at all. I don't know what to do. Any words of wisdom?
I'm sorry that you are hurt by the end of what could have been with this guy.
Since he will not speak to you anymore, there isn't anything you can do but honor his request to remain seperated from you.
If he is still in love with and emotionally bonded to his ex-wife, your HP (higher power) may have given you a gift. Your HP may be protecting you.
In Alanon meetings and through support here at SR, I have learned that the only person I have control over is myself. I have to let other adults make their own choices, good and bad, and deal with their own consequences.
You friend may be walking back into an unhealthy relationship - but he has to find his own way.
I hope you will find a way to grieve the loss of this relationship as well as what might have been. Take care of you!