Welcome to SR, jake. I am sorry you are dealing with this, but you have found a great place for support and understanding. You might want to post this in the Friends and Family of Alcoholics Forum. You will receive more attention there from people who know what you are dealing with and have experience, strength and hope to share. Also, the stickies at the top of that forum contain a wealth or information. Again, welcome to SR!
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