Thank you all for the wisdom. I'm here for the longhaul if she wants. She's has all the space in the world, just wanted to get ideas on her thoughts as I don't get them from her. This helps. One last question, I never say anything to her about doing anything. She rarely comes home, works out of town, travels with friends. Should I act like I care and say something like are you going to work? Or is that invading space. Just want to if I can ask her any questions, don't want to invade anything. I think it is nice, but don't want her to be mad that I don't ask her anything also. It's hard for me to know if I'm making her mad by letting her do whatever she wants without any thought of it. Or does she want me to act concerned.