So you were an alcoholic for 8 years? 8 years of lies, broken promises, insults, self pity, blame, selfishness, betrayal. Day after day. 2,920 days.
She is entitled to 8 years of mistrust, wariness, resentment, and anger. She's ENTITLED to 8 years of working through her anger and disappointment with you. You owe it to her.
She tolerated your god awful behavior for 8 years, why wouldn't you tolerate her sulking for 8? Well, she lived with worse for 8 years. As bad as you think her behavior is now, yours was worse.
She stuck by you. Why can't you do it for her? Because it affects the quality of your life, because it's a drag to live with? It's okay to trash her life, but it's not ok for her to trash yours?
What if you stick by her with understanding for 8 years and let her heal as she did with you...and then start expecting a good marriage. There is a huge cost to treating people poorly, huge. Do you just want to declare bankruptcy and walk away, or are you willing to pay your debt to her? With the pay off being a good marriage eventually, maybe a long time eventually.
If you knock the chip off your shoulder (that expectation that she'll be so grateful that you are now sober, a hero who conquered alcohol that she'll cover you with hosannas), maybe she'll heal faster. She doesn't owe you anything but what you earned--which was 8 years of mistrust and pain.
Give her all the time and understanding she needs. She'll come around, and probably a lot faster than 8 years. Just don't add to your debt to her by having attitude now. If it was too late, she'd be gone. It's not too late. You can still have the marriage you and she thought you'd have when you fell in love and committed to each other. But you have a lot of amends to make and she has a lot of healing to do.
It's not just about you.
If you clearly understand the amount of damage you've done, you'd let her heal at her own pace and seek to understand from her point of view. If you give her her turn, give her her due, you can have the rest of your lives together in a good strong marriage. Isn't that worth a year or two or three?
And yes, btw, she is very grateful that you aren't drinking any more.