Thanks for the support, working as an addiction counselor it is weird to not have the answer to this one.
My father works no recovery program. He has done AA in the past and loved it. The first I ever heard about it (I was 12ish) was him raving about how wonderful it was. He stopped going YEARS ago. When I first got sober, he called daily and was so supportive of meetings. But then once I was working my program and encouraging him to work his, things turned sour. I think his discomfort with my recovery is a big piece of it, but he was SO wonderful when I was growing up. He would have killed anyone who made me feel bad. It is odd how nasty he has been the past few years. He says he wants to be closer. Doesn't treat my brother like this. He definitely has cognitive damage. I don't know, I am getting married and don't know if he should come. He just owes me so much, and for him to treat me like he does under the circumstances...it's just mind-boggling for me.
Sorry. Maybe I should go to Alanon.