hi kitty-
Sounds to me like you get it.
Your dead on correct in your assessment of the mentality involved.
Well -
first - I'd write this incident up.
date time what happened - what you said etc.
especially the part about NO CONTACT.
if he calls -
you don't have to take the call -
but write it down.
email, snail mail - drive bys ....
same thing.
The MINUTE - the SECOND - you feel unsafe -
contact the police.
Show them your list.
FOLLOW YOUR GUT.
If your gut says to drop everything and go buy a blue shirt-
drip everything and buy a blue shirt.
I'm, serious.
If your gut is saying to take it to a higher level -
make your statement. copy your list.
and go file a report.
In the cities where I lived -
only one was unconcerned about making any type of record
until violence had occurred.
(screw you to this day whitehall, MT)
good for you keeping your head.
you're not alone.