Originally Posted by
tpen 
Her reply....I need to be with someone who trusts me.
Translated: "I need to be with someone who trusts me even though I'm not trustworthy".
Originally Posted by
tpen Are you sure it isn’t more than twice…..oh you would definitely know the exact number and probably date.
And she's taunting you. You are supposed to be wondering now: is it just two or were there more? What am I missing?
And finally, a dig expressing contempt because you have normal interest and disapproval in your spouse's infidelities, and actually expect her to control herself.
She feels the life is being sucked out of her. Yep, it sure is--right into a bottle. Check in with her 10 years from now, if she's still alive, and see if she's not just a shell of what she is today.