Although the no contact thing needs to be more clearly defined -
the thing that came at me first
is what I wouldlike to address if that's okay for right now.
And that part is:
you're driving close to your kid's school
and still using stbxh is WALKING down the street.
*red flag the size of TEXAS*
ok I read on and discovered
So you went to the bar
(near there? I didn't quite get that part)
and they said he'd been there a few times
drinking but walking outside then coming right back in.
ok - first - this is back to breaking the 'no contact' thing just like the fb, but still....
The way it was written
it couldn't be more obvious he was watching for your car?
Are you sure about that?
or was he watching for one of these other women?
This is why no contact ... needs to be a clean break.
because it creates this 'grey area'
that we start imagining and trying to 'fill in'
the irrational behavior of an alcoholic in their addiction
from the perspective
of someone who has no understanding whatever
of an alcoholic in their addiction....
... see what I mean?
so that definitely needs to be more clearly defined.
okay -
so I read further....
and it comes to me that
no matter if the no contact line has been crossed by either of you-
you're being told something by your gut.
it bothered you enough to come post about it here.
I think you need to pay attention to that.
Our gut knows what's REALLY going on FAR better than we do.
I'm glad to read your son is already in therapy.
Good.
Ok then that's handled for the moment.
You can maybe tell the therapist about what happened
and let them see about approaching the topic as well.
MEANWHILE -
I think it's time for you to make certain that
your son never ever leaves the school with anyone but you.
If you have to file an injunction for that - then get moving on it.
Your gut is talking to you.
That much is clear.
Rather than try to rationalize the behavior
of an irrational person
I feel I need to advise you to take action.
And I think that's what your gut is saying as well.