From wanting: "I would bring up stuff with XH and he'd blame me or just leave and I'd feel like I regressed back to a 6yo who wondered why she was so unlovable that her parent would leave her. I'd be paralyzed for days afterward. Isn't it sick how we seek wholeness from other broken people?"
Wow. Wow. Yup, that's it exactly. Wow.
Kittyboo, thanks for this thread. You wrote, "And that's his intention with saying what he did. And then I quickly remember the lies that he told which he avoids like the plague in addressing. Instead I was the one who "ruined the friendship". That line still kills me." Yeah, those one-liners can be zingers for sure...
As of tonight I'm trying to say something kind to myself as I remember the "zingers". What can you say to yourself that's kind and gentle instead?
Hugs,
posie