I'm Puerto Rican. I cook the pernil (pulled pork) and the beef for the meals low and slow and with loads of Sazon.
My daughter isn't in a 12 step program, she's having a more cognitive based therapy. Guilt is not a part of the her therapy, neither is blame. I don't know what's right and what's gonna work or not work, but I don't want to enable her to do drugs - I just want to make sure everyone gets plenty of food.
I'm really terrible too - I buy homeless guy (Robert Jr.) food when I see him out there, this morning he wanted a 6 pack of juice. I don't know what has led him to the street or what may bring him back, but if my daughter was out there I would want some mom to buy her a pack of juice and spend a few minutes chatting to see if she wanted assistance.
I'm on unemployment and I do a lot of my shopping at the 99 cents only store. I have far more than I need and plenty to share.