hi Cb,
I could say its enabling or it could be a culture type of thing. In more ways then one it sounds like enabling but then I know in my culture and background we like to feed people... we get enjoyment within ourselves knowing we cooked food and that they are eating a lot of it. My nationality is spanish and I know my mom, exMIL... woudl cook up a storm if they knew it would go to use and not have minded at all.
How do you feel about making the food? Are you questioning that your enabling? Or do you feel good about providing some food to where your daughter is staying. Only you truly know the answer to this question.
Hugs,
Jewelz