Definition of enabling: doing for others what they should be doing for themselves. or doing things for others and expecting something in return (i.e. sobriety). if you keep feeding her or solving her problems, one thing is for sure, she won't learn to do it on her own.
It's up to you mom. i think it's very generous of you, maybe a little excessive. I suggest thinking about it for 24 hours... and in the meantime do something nice for yourself with 1/2 of the saved cell phone money - like get a pedicure or something.
PS. My son and I have NO FOOD in the fridge. We've been eating the same leftover spaghetti with jarred sauce and melted american cheese slices for 3 days now. Gak! I'm sick of it but I'm broke. Maybe you can send meatloaf some our way. :-)