Originally Posted by
CAPTAINZING2000 
i made a point a while back to tell his lawyer after an AA meeting to have AA included in with his sentence. I know I shouldn't have but, I pray, if he goes to enough meetings something will sink in that thick skull of his.
I can tell you from my own experience that any nudges or 'help' that I tried to manipulate the situation with when it came to my AD always backfired on me.
I hope you really dig into Alanon, and get the focus back on yourself.