Originally Posted by
iwantcontrol 
I hate talking to him when he's drinking so I'm not going to do it anymore.
Good for you. That's exactly what boundaries are all about.
Originally Posted by
iwantcontrol As for seeing him when he's drinking, he doesn't usually want me there anyway but sometimes he conceals it and its only obvious when I get to his house - in that case I guess I would have to leave and go home again - but I know that would cause an argument which I dont want,
Remember--it takes two people to have an argument. If you don't participate, he has to argue with himself, lol.
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