Wifeofadrinker of course you belong here!
The only thing I would have to say is that if you have pegged him as an alcoholic and he isn't one, you are going to give yourself lots of extra headaches trying to add non-existing problems to your mix of problems.
Is it possible that maybe you come from a background of really strict intolerance of alcohol where even "normal" intake would be considered abnormal? That is my imagination and conjecture so please don't take it as an assumption.
I am a recovering alcoholic and that is why I am asking you these questions.
If you haven't seen your husband drunk in years, man, lots of ladies and men here would yearn to see that.
So there was "less" in the liquor cabinet? sheesh, with me around, there was nothing left in the liquor cabinet after a couple of days. Nothing. I drank it all up. A fifth in one day? phhhhttt.