It made me wonder how much chaos he actually created and how much I actually created by staying and continually handing him invitations to lie to me.
Oh boy, I remember that feeling. I was so busy blaming him (i stopped drinking and he didn't!), I couldn't see how much I was feeding the chaos machine by inviting the lies, so I could be the martyr. <shudder> Not my proudest moments for sure.
I did eventually learn to ask myself "what am i contributing here?"
by taking responsibility for my own chaos contribution, i was able to avoid so much of it.
Thank you for this timely reminder NYC_Chick