Originally Posted by
grrl77 
I don't think he's some cruel jackass. I obviously fell in love with some part of him, absolutely. And I *do* know he's sad, and feels terrible. Alcoholism is a disease that causes a lot of shame and embarrassment, and I get that. I'm empathetic. It's why I stuck it out for as long as I did.
But why would he turn around and decide to bring someone else into that? *Again*? That's my thing. I just don't understand that. It's like he's narcissistic.
I want to make sure I say this as lovingly as I mean it..Maybe he isnt a jackass but his actions were pretty cruel. Would you do that to him?
Deep inside the man you fell in love with may be there somewhere but the alcoholic side of him can be very cruel and will be. So its like you never know what side you will get..But accepting who he is now versus who you think he is may be important. I wouldnt say what he said..would you? And its about you now...Your serenity and peace..