great thread
I feel the strength coming from so many of the posts here. It is true that many of us find a sense of calm and serenity when we realize that living without the insanity of our alcoholics is not only possible but preferable.
I always describe the change in my life as a sense of calm or peace in my home. I also try to say that I feel 'safe'. Not that my AH was violent or scary, just that I always knew my feelings could be hurt by him at any time. Now I feel safe from those endless disappointments and arguments.