Normal people don't come to recovery websites.
Regardless of the side of the fence they might be on.
Because Normal People don't get anywhere NEAR the fence... to begin with.
So true: and, case in point: my alcoholic brother married his first wife when he was just reaching chronic stage. She divorced him. Because he was an alcoholic. Period. End of story.
He went on to marry two other women who shared a life of complete chaos and misery with him until they too divorced him.
The difference is that the next two wives went into the relationship aware, long before the wedding day, that he was an alcoholic.
Do I judge them? Heck no! I love him too. I am and was a codependent to him as well. So were they. None of us had a clue.
Course, I AM trying to work out my codie behavior. Now. I didn't know I had it....