While reading some responses....it got me thinking....that acknowleding this behavior is one thing, but I MUST do something about it. MY take on my situation right now is that I just don't take his bologna anymore.....I won't listen to it, I won't engage in it, I won't acknowledge it....and NOW for hte first time I DO call him out on his inappropriate behaviors. Of course, this ticks him off.....but somehow I just don't care anymore. I almost feel like....and this is somewhat horrible to say....if I detach and stop enabling he will leave, and somehow "let me off the hook" - which is a cheap way out....but I am not the person I was 6 months ago...I am strong again, and I don't his crap....and well....I know if he doesn't leave on his own and some point I will be the one making the decision and that is fine with me too! Love is not a word that I could even relate to with him right now, let alone like and I can't live with that forever!