I find myself constant stressing over the lies she is telling people to make me look bad. It has reached cacophonous proportions. I find myself constantly remunerating (?) it. I keep telling myself I'm the one with the good career, I'm the one who has been stable and earned a living. I'm the one who wasn't in rehab......
I so hear you. I had this happen to me too. Character assassination. It's a way to make sure you don't feel too entitled to your happiness.