Originally Posted by ItsmeAlice

justjo, I completely understand where you are coming from.

I'm not adverse to pornography myself, but for me it is a matter of content.

Early in our relationship, my XABF and I watched movies together to inspire us. They were couple and relationship oriented and promoted more romantic encounters than just sexual maneuvers. A little more Playboy and a lot less Hustler, if that conveys.

Later in our relationship, I found he was viewing a lot of porn online in secret. I protested. I felt the content was too hard core to be appropriate. On top of that the only things he wanted to do in the bedroom were just like he was viewing online, which left me feeling violated rather than loved. After he crashed our only computer leaving it so it would only play continuous porn files, I set blocks on the system to keep him off the sites. Like a child.

I did keep the HBO adult shows on the satellite even though I was the only one watching them.

I agree that it is all about what you are comfortable with. If you're not comfortable, then going along with it is just wrong for you physically and emotionally.

Alice