While the responses may feel good in the moment they do just keep the dance going. I no longer respond to the irrelavant stuff either and really - 98% of what comes out of my xah's mouth is irrelavant quacking.
Originally Posted by
barb dwyer 
change that to :
"Accept him as he is and as he was AND just forget it."
That's kinda like this Huna-person taught me once:
You sit alone ... just quiet... no drama music...
Accept it as it is.
Completely.
Then...
Accept it ... as it ISN'T...
completely.
Then ...
As it WAS...
continue...
As it WILL BE...
then the big one -
As it will NEVER be....
when you've done each ... completely....
you have ALREADY let it go.
takes a little parctice.
I haven't thought about that in a LONG time...
I oughta go do that myself about the whole 'family' crap...
I love this. I grieved (grieve) more over the loss of the dream, the loss of what would never be, then I did over the loss of the actual relationship. Time and space might flip that around, or maybe I just waited so long to leave the grieving of that had already been done or was just burned out.
Originally Posted by
MaryGoRound yes, yes. I know that's why it stung. And no I don't.
Makes me mad as hell the more I talk about it. He said I was "playing games" with him. I'm not playing games. I simply said that I care and I don't want this in my life!
Stupid. Stupid. Stupid. (Me!) <snip> If he wants me to let go? Then why the **** does HE contact me? And then flip it when I say see ya when you're sober?
Rarrr.
I swear there is some master script out there they all read from! I have heard and deal with the same things!